“It’s better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.” – Khaled Hosseini
We often say we want truth, yet often, we resist it.
At the heart of my work lies a deep commitment to truth. When I began my inner journey 15 years ago, my first intention was simple but radical: to stop lying to myself. To start seeing through illusions that were comfortable but kept me trapped. I quickly learnt : there was a cost to seeking truth.
It was been humbling, painful work. Truth leaves you feeling raw and exposed, unsure of who you are without your stories. That’s why so few seek truth until we’re forced to see it.
As I peeled back those layers, something else began to emerge.
Clarity.
Intuition.
Less noise.
More inner space.
Now, I hold this space for others to discover their deepest inner truths.
Why We Resist Truth
I often see clients dancing around truths they already feel somewhere deep inside. There’s a knowing that lives in the body, even when the mind hasn’t caught up. When the full truth finally lands, there’s a shift. A full body recognition. No more hiding.
This process can feel intense because our nervous systems are wired for safety, not for truth. When something threatens our sense of self, control or belonging, the body registers it as danger. Even if we logically know it’s the right thing to see, the system may not be ready.
This is why we avoid what we already know. We deny it, minimise it, or find ways to explain it away.
These are not flaws. They are protective responses. Evolution didn’t prioritise clarity; it prioritised survival.
Truth and Trauma
If we grew up in homes where honesty wasn’t safe, we learned to hide from it.
Lying, whether to others or to ourselves, became a strategy for survival.
Older forms of therapy, particularly those without a trauma informed lens, often focused on confronting people with the truth all at once. These are spectacular theatrics to watch in groups – but rarely creates true, lasting transformation.
The nervous system doesn’t always allow truth in and that’s exactly why we resist it. Instead, it activates our defense mechanism because it falls outside of our Window of Tolerance. Our nervous system is flooded and we enter into dysregulation.
As we expand that window, we experience less overwhelm when faced with truth.
In a state of Hyperarousal, we enter into fight or flight. This triggers our defence mechanisms to escape the uncomfortable feelings with energy and action.
In a state of Hypoarousal, we numb, disconnect and dissociate until the feelings of danger pass. We stay safe by blocking out what feels threatening to our reality and our body freezes.
To make truth more digestible, it needs to be introduced in small, manageable pieces – a process called titration in therapy. This gradually allows us to expand our window of tolerance so we can confront the truth.
We might begin to notice the truth lingering just outside our awareness.
It may then develop into a sensation or feeling.
We catch its presence from the corner of our eye.
With support and confidence, we begin to walk around it.
Eventually, we see it and start to poke at it.
We begin to understand and accept it.
When we’re ready, we integrate it and let it transform us.
Living Your Truth
The more honest you are with yourself, the more you see how rare that path really is.
Many people don’t want truth because it’s easier to stay in the comfortable known.
But even when truth hurts, it heals.
The fog clears around us.
Our energy comes back to the present.
We find a stable place to stand.
And most of all, it brings you back to yourself.
To live in truth isn’t about brutal honesty or constant exposure.
It’s about meeting yourself gently and honestly, in ways the body can hold.
With care and curiosity.
Helping You Stay True
My work isn’t to force the truth. It’s to help you build yourself up, layer by layer, ready to meet it.
In order to build enough safety and self trust so that when truth does arrive, it doesn’t rock your world. Instead, it slowly seeps into you, and eventually liberates you from illusions.
What waits on the other side of truth is something real. A life that feels aligned, clear, and honest. Where you’re no longer fighting yourself but meeting who you are with vulnerability and strength.
And that, is where real healing and transformation begins.